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Hi
this is Sarah Zeldman, your solution diva from
http://www.solutionsforbusymoms.com. A few years back I was asked to
contribute to a book for new mothers. The book didn’t get publish but I
passed these tips on to my friends that had babies and they all really
appreciate them so I thought I would share them.
In no
particular order here are my tips for new mothers. First, when the baby is
born don’t worry and get upset with yourself if you don’t bond right away
with your baby or experience overwhelmingly sentimental maternal feelings
that you expect. Many women don’t bond in those first few days or weeks
because they are going through such a huge transition and they may be
exhausted.
Everybody reacts differently and bonds their own way. Remember, love comes
from giving, as time passes and you give more to your baby that love and
bond and closeness will surely develop. Second, put the baby down to sleep
between the second and third eye rub or yawn. The first one is too early
and the fourth one will be too late and your baby will be getting over
tired.
This
will help your baby learn to put him or herself to sleep. Boy I wish I knew
that when I had my new baby. Next, beg, steal or borrow, I don’t really
mean steal – just kidding folks, beg, steal or borrow a copy of the DVD The
Happiest Baby on the Block. It teaches you how to trigger the baby’s common
reflex and it really works.
Next,
accept every offer of help you get in those first few months and always.
Next, if you want to find exercise video to get back in shape make sure it’s
the kind you can do with your baby that way you will have one less thing to
do while the baby naps. Ok, for the nursing mother, unless you really want
to nurse your baby all the time ask your lactation consultant about when and
how to introduce the bottle just in case you might want a mommy time out at
some point.
Again
for nursing mothers if you’re having problems nursing, like your baby is not
gaining weight, a situation which I know from personal experience, can make
any new mother loose her mind, ask your doctor about the following strategy
– nurse for as long as you and or the baby want even it’s only five minutes
at first then supplement with breast milk or formula.
There
are several ways to supplement the baby that won’t cause confusion. Finger
feeding through a syringe worked great for me and my baby, the SNS device
that I tried drove me so crazy I almost gave up nursing all together. The
syringe strategy enabled us to get some experience nursing but that allowed
me to relax and know that my baby would get the nourishment that he needed
from the supplementation.
Once
he gained the weight he needed we transitioned to full time nursing. Next
tip, for all moms, surround yourself with support. If you’re family is in
the realm or even if they are and they are driving you crazy or your friends
just don’t get it, try a mother support group like the mom club or mother’s
and more, it can do wonders for you.
And
finally, stop waiting for life to return to normal! Life as you knew it
will never be normal again! This is a time to redefine what normal is, it’s
time to be extra gentle with your expectations of yourself while you
readjust to life with a baby.
That’s it’s, this has been Sarah Zeldman from
http://www.solutionsforbusymoms.com, feel free to contact me through my
website and also come by and pick up your free busy moms stress relief kit
when you visit.
