An archived episode of the Journeys to Motherhood internet radio show features a truly heart-warming story of a surrogate mother who gave of herself and her body in order to help other couples achieve their dreams of having a child. This selfless act is a real example of goodwill and was the perfect topic for this holiday season.

Host Barbara Winters spoke with surrogate mom Colleen Meyers about how she arrived at her decision to become a surrogate and her experiences. Colleen was a surrogate for two couples, delivering twins for the first and a single baby girl for the second. She was also very open about her disappointment at not becoming pregnant at her third surrogate attempt, which was for host Barbara Winters and her husband.

I didn’t realize that surrogates needed to take multiple doses of hormone shots for each in-vitro attempt and that sometimes those in-vitro attempts don’t work. Couple that with the many aches and pains of pregnancy plus the actual labor and delivery and you have a woman who truly placed the happiness of another couple above her own temporary discomfort. Colleen is proof positive that there are good people in the world today.

Q: Should I have a baby after 35?
A: No, 35 children is enough.

Q: I’m two months pregnant now. When will my baby move?
A: With any luck, right after he finishes college.

Q: What is the most reliable method to determine a baby’s sex?
A: Childbirth.

Q: My wife is five months pregnant and so moody that sometimes she’s borderline irrational.
A: So what’s your question?

Q: My childbirth instructor says it’s not pain I’ll feel during labor, but pressure. Is she right?
A: Yes, in the same way that a tornado might be called an air current.

Q: When is the best time to get an epidural?
A: Right after you find out you’re pregnant.

Q: Is there any reason I have to be in the delivery room while my wife is in labor?
A: Not unless the word “alimony” means anything to you.

Q: Is there anything I should avoid while recovering from childbirth?
A: Yes, pregnancy.

Q: Do I have to have a baby shower?
A: Not if you change the baby’s diaper very quickly.

Q: Our baby was born last week. When will my wife begin to feel and act normal again?
A: When the kids are in college.

If you are getting closer to the end of your pregnancy, you may be growing a bit anxious about the labor. This is quite normal and most pregnant women experience this same anxiety at some point.

You should be prepared, in the event that your labor extends the length of an average labor. Use these tips for coping with a long labor.

Relax - The number one rule is to relax. You must be able to remain calm and collected during your labor. Although it is difficult becoming anxious or irritated will only make things worst. 

You are doing a lot of hard work throughout this process, so you need to be able to stay calm and relaxed. Bring along a small CD player and a CD with soothing music to play during your labor. Or have a back massager on hand for your spouse or birth partner to rub your back when you start to get achy. Whatever you need to help you relax, bring it with you to the hospital.

Surround Yourself with Love - The excitement of a baby tends to cause mothers to invite several people to be present for the birth. This may not a good idea. Naturally, you want to share this momentous occasion with many family and friends. But the labor room may not be a good time for a family reunion. Pick and choose your birth partners carefully. Be sure to surround yourself with people who can help keep you calm and focused during your labor.

Remember your Goal – Keep your goal in mind even through the pain. You are experiencing something wonderful, but it doesn’t come without lots of hard work. Your labor can become difficult and lengthy, so be ready for it. When you get tired, or feel like you just can’t take another minute, remind yourself that soon you’ll have a lovely little baby in your arms and it will all be forgotten.

As your due date nears, you may be growing a bit anxious over the labor and delivery. Here are some ways you can mentally prepare for your labor.

Tip #1: Find Your “Happy Place”
Where is the one place that you feel most at peace? Maybe it’s a specific setting, like at your favorite café or sitting on a blanket in the middle of the park. Whatever or wherever you feel most at place is going to be your “happy place” in your mind. Practice focusing on that place where you feel calm and at peace with yourself. Hold those feelings for several minutes before you open your eyes. When you begin to feel anxious, close your eyes, take a deep breath and go to your happy place.

Tip #2: Envision a Calm Labor
Don’t let your mind run wild with all the stories you’ve heard other women talk about. Each labor is unique and much of it depends on how well you personally cope with it. What is the best possible way you would like your labor to go? Capture that in your mind. Think on it. Envision a happy, calm labor.

Tip #3: Practice Positive Thinking
It’s very easy to get wrapped up in negative thoughts about your labor. You’re already anxious about the coming day. Don’t allow negative thoughts to creep up and make you more nervous. Practice positive thinking. One way to do this is to speak positive affirmations every time you start thinking negative.

Tip #1:  Breathe
A common reaction to pain is to take a deep breath in and hold it. You should not do this while you’re in labor.  Try to remember to breathe. Take a deep breath in, the slowly release it. (Don’t forget to take Lamaze classes, as this will help you learn breathing techniques to use during labor!)

Tip #2: Relax
As difficult as it sounds, you have to relax. Think about your favorite vacation spot. Concentrate on a time when you feel most relaxed. Take yourself to that place or time in your mind to help you relax.  The more you tense your body the stronger your pain may feel.

Tip #3: Don’t Watch the Clock
Your husband needs something to do, so assign him clock duty. Let him time your contractions. Let him keep up with how many minutes apart they are. You stay focused on remaining calm and breathing and let him worry about the clock!

Tip#4: Rest
The last thing you should do while you’re having contractions is do last minute preparations in the baby’s room or clean your house. Try to resist the nesting instinct at this point and start mentally and physically preparing yourself for the labor ahead.  You will need every ounce of energy you can muster when the time comes to push.

Tip#5: Distract Yourself
Keep something small at hand to distract yourself. You will feel anxious and nervous, so have something to keep your mind distracted. If you like to craft, work on a small needlepoint project. If you enjoy reading, catch up on that novel you’ve been waiting to read. Having friends or family around during early labor may help take your mind off the mild contractions.

Tip #6: Be Patient
When you begin to feel contractions, you will most likely start to feel excited. However, many labors, especially first-timers, tend to last for several hours. If your labor is slow, just be patient. Before you know it, you will have your beautiful baby girl or boy in your arms.

A common misconception among pregnant women is that when you’re pregnant you are eating for two, so you can eat more. This simply is not true. Many women find they relax and tend to overeat during pregnancy. However, they find after giving birth that losing those extra pounds isn’t as easy as they thought it would be.

You can avoid gaining too much weight during your pregnancy if you eat smart. Here are some tips for how much you should eat during your pregnancy:

300 Calories
If you are at a normal weight for your age and height when you become pregnant, you should only add about 300 calories per day to your intake. Be wise in the choices you make about where these 300 additional calories will come from.  Try to avoid empty calories like cookies and cakes, they have no real nutritional value and are high in calories.

Fruits and Veggies
Remember to stock up on lots of fresh fruits and vegetables. Grapes, apples and bananas are wonderful substitutes for chocolate.  Fresh raw veggies, like baby carrots, celery and cucumbers can replace junk food. Keep your refrigerator stocked with these healthy snacks and eat at least five servings per day.

Fiber
You can never get too much fiber in your diet when you are pregnant. Fiber helps prevent constipation, which many pregnant women deal with during pregnancy. Foods like bran, raisins and whole grains can help.

Protein
Most doctors suggest that about ten percent of your caloric intake should consist of protein-rich foods. Protein is important during pregnancy and has a double effect as some foods that are high in protein are good sources of iron as well.

Pregnant women are often concerned about gaining excess weight. A common question many pregnant women ask their doctors is if exercise is safe during pregnancy. Be informed that the viewpoint of your obstetrician may vary from other doctors. However, it has been determined by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists that some exercise is safe for pregnant women. That being said, here are some tips to keep in mind if you choose to exercise:

Don’t Exercise Sporadically
Most doctors will agree that regular moderate exercise a few times each week is much better than sporadic exercise. It is inadvisable to exercise only when you feel like it. If you aren’t able to keep a regular exercise routine (2-3 days per week), then you should try to hit the gym.

Pay Attention to Your Body
When you are pregnant, you do not have the same flexibility as you may have otherwise. Thus, exercise with caution. If you are having muscle aches or other pain, you should slow down or stop the exercise. Pushing yourself too hard could result in more pain or problems.

Don’t Lie on Your Back
If you are past your first trimester, you should not lie on your back during exercise. This decreases the amount of oxygen that your baby receives. You should avoid any exercise that has to be done in this manner.

Stay Hydrated
While exercising, remember to drink plenty of water. Take advantage of indoor gyms and exercise facilities, if at all possible, to stay out of the heat.

Exercise No – Nos
You should not participate in any activities that hold a potential risk of falling. Steer clear of activities like roller skating, riding horseback, skiing, etc. Some pregnant women ignore the caution of their physician about these types of exercises. However, remember that you are warned against such activities for the health of your child, as well as your own safety and well-being.

Tip #1: Drink plenty of water. Saturate your body with lots of water. If you are feeling particularly nauseous, try something carbonated, like Sprite or ginger ale, but do try to avoid highly caffeinated drinks.

Tip #2: Steer clear of strong odors. If there is a food or smell in particular that causes you to feel sick, be sure to stay away from it if possible. Many pregnant women feel sick at the smell of certain foods cooking, or certain perfumes.

Tip #3: Don’t eat spicy foods. If you experience frequent heartburn, stay away from anything spicy. If you are craving spicy food but they give you heartburn, eat smaller portions. Finish your meal with a small piece of bread and milk.

Tip #4: Keep crackers by your bed. If you suffer from extreme nausea you may find that saltines help control it. Eat a few saltines before you go to bed at night. Try eating a few in the morning before you attempt to get out of bed.

Tip #5: Try ginger and peppermint.  Ginger helps alleviate nausea so you can try ginger ale, ginger cookies or ginger tea to help calm your nausea.  Peppermint may also help, try it in tea form or suck on a mint.

Every pregnant woman deals with a certain amount of stress. However, stress should be avoided at all costs during your pregnancy. Try this simple and quick pregnancy stress relief tips.

Stress Relief Tip #1: 15-minute foot soak.  If you’re tired and stressed from a long day, a nice, hot, 15-minute foot soak will ease the day’s tension like a charm. Your feet have many pressure points, so remember to get off your feet when you’re stressed. Add a little lavender or chamomile oil for a relaxing aromatherapy foot soak.

Stress Relief Tip #2: 30-minute massage
Make an appointment for a 30-minute massage at your local spa. You may not feel like it at first but push yourself to do it, a professional massage is not only relaxing but can physically work a lot of tension out of your body and relieve pregnancy aches and pains, particularly in the back area.  This is a really nice gift you can give yourself. After the baby is born, you probably won’t have time for many luxuries like this, so take advantage of it right now!

Stress Relief Tip #3: 30-minute manicure/pedicure
Another once-a-month stress reliever that is nice is a manicure and/or pedicure. Treat yourself to something nice. You deserve it. A manicure and pedicure might seem like an extravagance to some, but it will make you feel so much better.  Pregnancy is hard on the body and some of us don’t feel at our best, so nice hands and feet will make you feel sexy and pretty.

Stress Relief Tip #4: 30-minute afternoon nap - You may be experiencing extreme fatigue during your pregnancy. If so, don’t fight sleep. Get in a cat-nap during late morning or early afternoon. Whenever you feel fatigue setting in, stop and rest. The best relief for stress sometimes is just a good sleep.

By the same token try to get enough sleep at night.  A good way to avoid going to bed too late is to get into the habit of making yourself a nice relaxing herbal tea (chamomile and sleepy time are great) and get in bed to read a good book.  If you don’t like the thought of going to bed to early, think of it as just relaxing and catching up on some reading.  Before you know it you’ll be drifting off to sleep and ensuring you get some much needed rest.

A good friend of mine planned to have only two children.  They had a nice home on property with three bedrooms and everything just as they wanted it. 

Then came baby number three.  

Rather than putting baby in with a sibling, they decided to add onto their house.  The project was very expensive and tons of work.  They had fun with it, but it added a lot of extra stress to my friend’s life during her pregnancy.

What if you could win a free home makeover?

We’ve all seen those great television shows about families winning an extreme home makeover.  But what if you don’t have a crisis situation?  You don’t have much hope of getting picked.  The good news is that you can still be entered to win an extreme makeover.  Just visit this website and enter.

I personally would LOVE to win a home makeover - and not because I’m expecting a new baby.  More because the baby I’ve raised has taken his toll on the house! LOL!